How to Access Mental Health Counseling/Therapy Abroad: A Resource Guide for US Foreign Service Officers and Their Families.
Introduction
Below you will find a deep dive into the multiple avenues you can use to access therapy as a member of the Foreign Service Family. Help is out there! A lot of help actually! You can access high quality healthcare anywhere. I hope this guide helps to demystify the process. If you have questions or would like additional resources, feel free to email me at hello@drfae.com. U.S. Department of State did not review or approve this list. I don’t work for them, but I try real hard to help people that do!
If individual therapy feels like too much or too long term for you right now, you might consider groups. They are 8 sessions and often help loop people back into community and reminders about what is important.
Table of Contents
I know it’s a lot, but I tried to make sure the information and how to is actually in here - not just “help is available” or “reach out to ECS (with no contact information provided)” as many of us have seen.
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How do I find a therapist while posted/serving overseas?
Find a therapist through State Department or your insurance
You can refer yourself to services both in and outside of the State Department - see next section for internal services.
Log on to your insurance providers website or give them a call to ask about coverage and covered providers. (I’m going to go ahead and tell you this is going to be really frustrating and not helpful)
Theoretically, your RMO/P and MED can BOTH provide referral lists (ideally they will have lists of local and State resources). They can also provide referral letters for insurance if needed, although this does not seem to be an issue anymore.
Here is a referral list of private providers from “big” MED (Last updated December 2025). Your MED unit or RMOP should have access to the latest list.
Find your own therapist
Individuals can reach out to therapists directly and can start immediately if self-pay. You will likely be able to be reimbursed for these services through your insurance provider as long as they can provide a diagnosis code. The biggest hurdle is that most US based providers won’t see people who are overseas. Someone who is already overseas or an EFM with a private therapy practice is probably your best bet. If your existing therapist is saying they can’t see you overseas and you’d like to keep them, have them reach out to me. I’ll give them some things to consider about FS people being on US soil and low-liability risks.
Online therapy
If you are looking for an online therapist outside of State Department who works with, understands, and/or specializes in US Foreign Service life, here are my personal recommendations.
You can also search the Trailing Houses Facebook group to see who others have recommended.
In-person therapy
If you are looking for an in-person/local therapist, you can try googling phrases like “therapy in CITY” “counseling in CITY” “expat therapy in CITY” or “therapy in English in CITY”. You can also ask in local social media groups. For example, the expat Facebook groups in Vietnam are where EVERYONE goes to ask questions. If you aren’t comfortable asking, you can use the search function in these groups and see if someone else has asked in the past.
Be sure to interview the therapist and make sure they are well qualified for the work they are doing. HERE is a guide for that.
More Options
If you want even more options and are open to online possibilities, you can try the following places. You might have to expand your search to other countries/regions. In the end it’s up to each therapist to decide what regions they serve due to possible liability/licensing issues.
Therapy Den - US centered but a solid directory with lots of filters/options.
Families in Global Transition - remember to search for multiple key words “therapy” “psychologist”
What mental health resources are available within State Department?
A lot of these are SharePoint links - which are inaccessible to EFMs/MOHs not working for State Department. This highlights a major issue in accessibility, but unfortunately, it’s not one I can fix. Please ask your lovely FSO to help you out here.
Your MED unit can help screen for potential mental health concerns and they may have a referral list on file. They can also provide you the current contact information for your RMO/P and/or help you schedule an appointment. Some MED unit providers are able/willing to screen for things like depression/anxiety and prescribe medication. You can walk in or email.
Your DOS Regional Psychiatrist (RMO/P). RMO/Ps offer medically confidential consultations, evaluations, and brief counseling to employees and family members under COM authority. Psychiatrists are mainly prescribers and due to the number of people they serve, they are usually unable to meet for regular talk therapy sessions and may refer to a therapist. Your health unit can provide their email address & you can schedule with them yourself. If you are feeling like the need is urgent, please say so in your email - they are responsible for hundreds of people, but they will make time for you!
Employee Consultation Services (ECS) - free, confidential counseling with clinical social workers to Department of State employees and family members. They can assist with job stress, marital and relationship problems, parent and child problems, single parent and blended family concerns, school adjustment problems, elderly parent concerns, separation, loss and grief, financial concerns, life transitions, career/retirement issues, and pre-post departure and reentry concerns. Phone: +1 703-812-2257; Email: MEDECS@state.gov.
Military OneSource – Support for Military Personnel & Families
TalentCare - supports and promotes the integration of the Department’s workforce resilience initiatives. More information HERE.
Diplomatic Security Peer Support Group - provides immediate & confidential Peer Support to our Diplomatic Security employees and their EFMs during and/or in the aftermath of incidents or periods of high emotional or physical stress. Assists with coping skills, recovery strategies, follow up, referral services and being there for each other. Members of DSPSG are not medical professionals.
Victims' Resource Advocacy Program (VRAP) - supports individuals affected by crimes investigated by Diplomatic Security, offering tailored resources such as counseling, reimbursement assistance for medical costs/lost property, court accompaniment, and relocation support. If you ever feel unsafe or experience violence at Post, talk to your RSO — they will believe you and help you get safe.
A list from Foreign Service Youth Foundation - also includes outside resources
I was unable to find a good resource for BCBS. Here is an Overseas FAQ, but if you find anything better, please let me know!
Will therapy impact my job/security/medical clearance?
There were some memos that went out around “Modernizing Medical Health Clearances” in April 2025. I’m missing part 3.
Here is some excellent guidance passed on to me in January 2022 by an incredibly helpful Department of State Regional Psychiatrist (RMO/P), Dr. Thomas Mak and has been updated where noted.
The State Department is clear that, “The act of seeking help from a counselor, psychotherapist, or other mental health professional to address stress, depression, grief, anxiety, family or marital issues, or other concerns is not derogatory in a (DoS) security clearance determination.”
RMO/Ps assigned overseas are medical providers and not involved in the medical clearance or security clearance adjudication process
The State Department security clearance is a completely separate process from a State Department medical clearance process and is administered through Diplomatic Security.
If you are not a State Department employee, please check with your agency’s Human Resources Office for guidance. The RMO/P office is here to assist you.
Medical Clearances:
Employees and family members eligible for a State Department clearance will still be asked to report counseling on the DS-3057 Medical Clearance Update form and may be asked to provide supplemental information. However, due to recent changes from The Department of State’s Bureau of Medical Services (MED), counseling for grief, bereavement, marital difficulties, family therapy, parenting issues, situational stress, pandemic stress, phase of life transitions, adjustment problems, coaching for attention deficit disorder, pastoral or spiritual needs, and other supportive services will no longer require any further review by the State Department Mental Health Clearance team.
Additionally, the expansion of MED’s free Employee Consultation Services (ECS) to be available 24/7 means employees always have support available. ECS services and USAID’s
Staff Care are Employee Assistance Programs and strictly excluded from clearance review and should not be reported on the DS-3057 Medical Clearance Update form.
Security Clearances:
As of December 2025 12 FAM 233.1 states “No negative inference concerning national security eligibility may be raised solely on the basis of mental health counseling. Such counseling may be a positive factor in determining national security eligibility. However, behavior that suggests a mental health condition may be considered where it directly relates to the security concerns under the National Security Adjudicative Guidelines.” See the next bold section for examples.
Key Points for DoS employees from ALDAC DTG: 310146Z JUL 19 Subject: Mental Health and Security Clearances
If employees need mental health care, they should get it. They should not neglect their mental health for fear that seeking treatment will negatively affect their security clearances
The act of seeking help from a counselor, psychotherapist, or other mental health professional to address stress, depression, grief, anxiety, family or marital issues, or other concerns is not derogatory in a security clearance determination.
From 2016-present, only approximately .001% of security clearance suspensions and revocations were based on significant concerns about an employee’s judgment, reliability, or stability stemming from mental health issues such as irresponsible, violent, paranoid, manipulative, impulsive, chronic lying, deceitful, exploitative, or bizarre behaviors.
This is something State has been working on changing for more than a decade. Here’s an article quoting former Secretary Clinton from 2010 on the clearance issue.
FAQ
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Therapy/Counseling/Psychotherapy is a safe space with a professional who is trained in the complexities of the mind. It can be helpful for those who are feeling a bit lost/low as well as for those who are intensely suffering. Therapy empowers people through helping them understand who they are (not who they were told to be), how they got here, and can even help people figure out where they’re going. Therapy is a resource for people who don’t know what to do next, who need to make a decision, or could use some help understanding and/or making the most of a new situation. The therapist’s job is to teach you new skills and help you to reflect on problems that you may not be able to see clearly or objectively because you are too close to them.
The folks over at Good Therapy wrote a great general definition as well as some excellent follow up questions. Their article is HERE. I’m pasting the text here for your convenience but feel free to check out their page to read more.
“Therapy, also called psychotherapy or counseling, is the process of meeting with a therapist to resolve problematic behaviors, beliefs, feelings, relationship issues, and/or somatic responses (sensations in the body). Beginning therapy can be a big step toward being the healthiest version of yourself and living the best life possible—no matter what challenges you may be facing. Through therapy, you can change self-destructive behaviors and habits, resolve painful feelings, improve your relationships, and more.”
HERE is a list of the different types of therapists and here is an article I wrote called, “What type of therapy do I need?”
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Therapy isn’t just for people experiencing severe symptoms. Therapy can assist individuals in meeting their goals, skill building, decision making, and self/other awareness. For example, I specialize in existential concerns/questions and value alignment. These are topics that can reduce stress and increase resilience for any phase of life, and are especially helpful in times of stress. In my opinion, therapy is a flexible service that changes to provide the assistance needed, whatever that may be. So in the end, you can decide if you need therapy. If you want to read more, I wrote an article here called, “Should I go to therapy?”.
If you still aren’t sure, you can meet with a therapist once and see if it feels right. If you’re not sure if you could benefit from speaking to a psychiatrist (MDs who can prescribe medication) or a psychologist (PhD/PsyD – cannot prescribe in most cases) or a master’s level therapist (MA/MS/LCSW/LPC/LMHC/etc.), you can speak to any one of them and ask their opinion. MED employs psychiatrists (RMO-Ps). You can contact them directly to schedule an appointment.
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Therapy can be one session, 10 sessions, or 100+ sessions. It depends on what you want/need. For example, many of my clients come in weekly to resolve their most painful symptoms and then decrease session frequency until they terminate completely or only come in as needed. My hope is that therapy can be a preventative service and people can come in to get tools, get back to the “real world”, and repeat as needed.
Generally, you will meet for an intake/consultation appointment to see if you and the therapist are a good fit/understand each other. You should be interviewing them as much as they are interviewing you! If you decide to start working together you can discuss with your therapist how often you would like to meet and work with them to see how their schedule works. Then, hopefully, you and the therapist will set the treatment plan/goals for therapy to establish your direction. Don’t worry, your therapist should guide you through every step of the way, but never hesitate to ask questions!
On the technical side, each therapists’ practice looks different. This is something else you might want to ask about if it isn’t clear on their website. For example, my practice is in-person and online. I have the ability to see clients in my home office and through HIPAA compliant online software/client portal - Simple Practice - which includes encrypted video/messaging/document storage as well as secure payments. This means ALL your data will be secure, not just your therapy notes. Not all video platforms/versions are secure/meant for therapy use (e.g. Skype is NOT HIPAA compliant). Make sure your therapist is using a secure video service/platform.
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Generally speaking, YES! You can either find a provider who takes your insurance up front or pay for services “out of pocket” and file for reimbursement. If you use your insurance (upfront or reimbursement), you will likely need a diagnosis. Please read the section above on the (non)impact of diagnoses on security/medical clearance. Be sure to talk about diagnosis with your therapist - they can help explain diagnoses and their meaning (or the lack thereof). You may not need a diagnosis if you are using your flexible spending account/arrangement (FSA). I encourage you to be clear on the documentation you may need and chat with your therapist to make sure we get everything done in the right order. Some insurance providers may need a referral letter from the RMO or RMO-P, which is a fairly simple process.
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If using insurance
Your insurance will likely require a “superbill” (invoice with a diagnosis code and service provided) from the therapist that you will need to submit to your insurance. If your local therapist cannot or does not diagnose, you may need a referral letter with a diagnosis from an MD (or MED).
It is highly recommended that individuals speak with their insurance company prior to starting services so they are clear on their options and what is needed for reimbursement and what is covered.
Some insurance providers sometimes require a referral from an MD before they reimburse. You may want to check with them before starting services.
Individuals should get any necessary referrals before their first paid session with therapist, as sessions dated prior to MD referral letter may not be covered/reimbursed.
Here are some instructions for reimbursement from the three main insurance providers.
◦ FSBP
◦ BCBS
◦ Tricare
If using FSA/HSA -
You use your FSA by submitting a claim to the FSA (through your employer) with proof of the medical expense and a statement that it has not been covered by your plan. You will then receive reimbursement for your costs. Ask your employer about how to use your specific FSA.
Often no diagnosis is needed for this route. Also for those who have a copay, the copay may be able to be charged to the FSA. At the time of this article (and from my understanding) only "psychologists" are covered (PhD or PsyD), not Master's level clinician (MA, MS, LPC, LMHC, LCSW, LPCC, etc).
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If you want more resources, feel free to browse my collection HERE. There’s a lot in there like:
Resources for those with marginalized identities
Issue specific resources (stress, depression, anxiety, relationships, values, etc.)
Resources for therapists/clinical supervisors
You can find my recommended reading lists for self-help and beyond HERE.
This is a very straight forward list of 19 types of therapists/specialties and degree types.
I also wrote an article called “What Type of Therapy Do I Need?”
I hope you found these writings and resources helpful. If you have more/different/updated information, please let me know through the contact form. Good luck out there!
dr. fae
has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. She lives abroad and offers online therapy & clinical supervision. In her individual therapy practice, she specializes in depth work, value alignment, existential questions, decision making, and general coping to increase overall life satisfaction.
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